... an email from James?

I just got an email from James, who I hadn't heard from since just after our dinner date a few weeks ago. It said,

Hows the job hunt? Sorry I disappeared, I've been really busy at work, and traveling every weekend! I'm actually in Indiana for the next 12 days...

-James

We haven't even kissed yet, so despite the fact I haven't heard from him for 16 days (according to my gmail stamps) I'm willing to give him a second chance. Also, his company is going through some big changes right now and is all over the news, so he's not even lying. I crafted a response, but of course I'm not going to send it for a few days to make him wait, haha.

Hey James,

I actually got a job offer last week, and start my new job Monday! I hope you are enjoying being at home, I was home a few weeks ago and it was really nice. Why don't you let me know when you have some free time again, or if you're hiking anytime soon I would love to join. I forgot how being in the city make me feel disconnected from nature. (yes, thats the most earth-child thing I've written in awhile)

-Rose

Is it Already Over?

I've never really dated two people at the same time before, so I was pretty excited about the last two weeks. However, I'm starting to think that neither one is going anywhere.

Nate and I shared our first kiss last Friday and I thought we had a great time at the beach. I haven't heard from him since, and now it's Wednesday so I get the feeling I'm not going to hear from him. I was really attracted to him so this is kind of a letdown.

I also haven't heard much from James. He sent me a bunch of emails after our date, but they kind of tapered off over the last week. I suggested we hang out sometime next week on Monday (the last time I heard from him), but no response. Again, its Wednesday.

ARGGGHHHH. How many girls are these guys seeing that want to be spanked? I mean, aren't guys supposed to stop calling AFTER you sleep with them? I forgot how frustrating dating is in this stupid city.

Wednesday Updates

Craigslist Bachelor #2 (Nate) finally asked me out, we're meeting tomorrow for coffee. I'm pretty excited about a day date possibility (He is a teacher, so he's also free during the day in the summer).

James emailed me the day after our date with some links that had related to our conversation the night before. So I think I will take that as a sign of interest! He seems slightly shy, and quite gentlemanly. I hope he isn't a gentleman forever and will take steps to make sure we end up kissing on our next date!

Dinner Date with James

James asked me to go to dinner with him this week, so Monday night we met up. He had asked me to choose the restaurant, which turned out to be quite stressful. I'm currently unemployed and job searching, so I was definitely hoping he would pay for dinner. But if he didn't, then I had to pick a restaurant that wouldn't blow my budget. Also, I didn't know what kind of money he wanted to spend.

I decided to stick with a theme- Mexican- and suggested a few restaurants with a variety of different price ranges. He actually said he loved Mexican and had another place in mind that he thought I would like. We met up for street style tacos and Mexican grilled corn on the cob. It was delicious (and he was quite a gentleman, and did pay). Also, he ordered for me, which no one has ever done before. He had asked what I wanted, and then when the waiter came he placed the order for both of us, and then asked what I wanted to drink. He had just come back from a weekend long party with some friends from college, so he didn't want anything alcoholic. I ordered a margarita for myself.

The conversation flowed a little bit more, and I found myself thinking he was much cuter than the first time we had met. He is quieter then the men I tend to date, but he seems worth getting to know. After dinner he suggested a game of pool, so we went and played. He basically killed me in the game, but I ended up winning one because he scratched on the 8 ball. Then he walked me to the train again, and I realized why people drink on dates.

There we were, standing in the middle of the street in New York City with a thousand people around, and I think he wanted to kiss me. And I wanted him to kiss me. Instead, we both awkwardly hugged each other, and I told him I would like to hang out again.

Now I'm totally concerned he's going to think I'm not interested, which is not the case. Seriously though, I didn't want to kiss him in the middle of a thousand people, but I also didn't want to go back to his apartment because I didn't want to take things too quickly.

Ice Cream

I met James for ice cream around 8:30 pm. I was running a little late and definitely very nervous. I wasn't immediately overly attractive to him, but he was nice looking. We walked around a bit, and when he asked where I grew up we "discovered" we had a few mutual friends. I talk a lot when I get nervous, so I felt like most of the date was me talking and talking. He was really nice, and walked me back to my subway at the end of the night. He even stood with me on the platform and waited for my train to arrive. I hope he calls again. I would definitely go out with him.

Date #1: The Mutual Friend

There were three guys who I thought sounded interesting. The first was 26 and also lived in Brooklyn and worked in my industry. He looked pretty cute in his picture, so I did the logical thing. I looked him up on facebook. And there he was! Maybe... I couldn't really tell if it was the same person. So I perused his profile. Under groups, he was in many that had titles like, "Women belong in the kitchen!"

I can take a joke, but I also think that after college you might want to limit how you present yourself to the world. "Women belong in the kitchen" joke or not is not standing out as someone I see myself dating.

The second guy, James, was cute, and looked kind of familiar. I looked him up on facebook too. I'm pretty sure we don't actually know each other, but we do have a mutual friend- a girl I knew in high school but haven't seen since. Although, she did run into my mother a few weeks ago and asked how I was doing.

I then clicked on her (Ashley) profile, and its seems they are really good friends, because he's posted on her wall in the last few days. Okay, if he is friends with Ashley he can't be that creepy! So I responded to his email.

In his next email he asked me out, and we decided to meet for an ice cream. Ice cream seemed really low pressure to me, and also avoided alcohol. I tend to make poor decisions regarding sex when I'm drinking, and I'm really looking to date someone this time!

Dates tonight. I hope it goes well! (and he doesn't know we have a mutual friend yet...)