Frustration

First of all, JOB!!!!! I finally got a job offer, and I was even able to enter into negotiations and get myself an extra week of vacation and an earlier start to the benefits. I start next week! This is really great, because I currently have $800 to my name. I was going to have to get a waitressing job to make ends meet, and I really did not want that.

Second of all, I heard from Nate around 2 pm on Tuesday. I'm starting to think he is a classic pursuer/distancer. For example, after we had sex he was all, "I'm not into cuddling." I'm not really either, especially when I'm trying to fall asleep. So I responded, "Great!" and rolled over to the other side of the bed. Instantly, he was on top of me and suddenly all about the cuddles. Then, when I left his apartment without waking him up on Tuesday morning, he was probably like, "Why did she leave?" so I started getting texts right away.

He was basically texting me every few hours. He would send a text, and then I would respond, and eventually I would stop responding as soon as a text did not require a response. Then, a few hours later he would restart the conversation.

In one conversation I told him he had left me too sore and tired for my final run before my taper, so I had to move my schedule back a day. He texted back:

Then I'm sorry for fucking you

I responded

I don't believe that for a second!

He replied

You're right. I feel no remorse, and would like to do it again!

I wrote back

Here are some things you could do to make it happen again. A) Ask me out! B) Bonus points if you call rather than text

And then silence. Nothing. Now its Friday and I'm feeling like this is Ben all over again. Great, I'm good enough to fuck again, but not to go out with again? This actually made me feel really shitty. I don't know what to do. I do know that I'm looking for more than a fuck buddy situation and that I am not going to do the Ben thing again.

Is it Already Over?

I've never really dated two people at the same time before, so I was pretty excited about the last two weeks. However, I'm starting to think that neither one is going anywhere.

Nate and I shared our first kiss last Friday and I thought we had a great time at the beach. I haven't heard from him since, and now it's Wednesday so I get the feeling I'm not going to hear from him. I was really attracted to him so this is kind of a letdown.

I also haven't heard much from James. He sent me a bunch of emails after our date, but they kind of tapered off over the last week. I suggested we hang out sometime next week on Monday (the last time I heard from him), but no response. Again, its Wednesday.

ARGGGHHHH. How many girls are these guys seeing that want to be spanked? I mean, aren't guys supposed to stop calling AFTER you sleep with them? I forgot how frustrating dating is in this stupid city.