Nate's Over...but Guess Who's Back???!?!?!

The beach was the last time I saw Nate, I kept getting text after text from him, but no invites to do anything. I started getting bored and stopped responding to the texts enthusiastically. So now, nothing.

James also panned out to be nothing. I got that email from him...and then nothing, nothing, nothing. I've been so busy at my new job I haven't had much time to think about dating.

And then yesterday, I had a message from Ben on Facebook. It said

I still think about you. I'd love to see you again if you're back in New York.

Now, Ben had emailed me once last year looking to hook up again. I gave him a pretty straight forward "NO WAY." There's actually more of a story than that. I had never told Ben my last name, or gave him my actual email address. He took a few things he knew about me, combined with my first name and googled until he came up with a picture and a name. It was from my college website for this award I won. Then he found me on facebook. Creepy? Flattering? To this day I don't know.

So I wrote back

I am back in New York. I moved back a few months ago. I'm flattered you're still interested, but we're not looking for the same thing.

What are you looking for?

More than what you want to give me.

I can give you more now. I feel badly about how things went between us.

You don't need to feel badly about how things went, so I hope that's not why you say that. I suppose if you ask me out, I would say yes. I'm too busy right now, maybe in October.

I can wait until then.

So that was unexpected. Seriously, we hooked up like 4 times over 2 years ago. I never even really had the impression he liked me very much.

One of my roommates in college once commented that every guy I dated always came back for more, like I was the one they never forgot. I won't say I'm like that to everyone I've slept with. A lot of them do tend to come back though. Maybe it's because I let them do whatever they want to me in bed?

Saturday at the Beach

I think it was the last beach day of the summer! Nate starts teaching Tuesday, I'm back in the swing of things at my new job...

He picked me up at 11 and we headed to the beach. Swimming/making out while swimming/tanning/making out while tanning/reading/picnic. It was a great day. He also opened up a little more, and was way more talkative than our first day at the beach. He actually told me that he doesn't like talking on the phone, because he always thinks he is interrupting people. I don't know if that was a reference to what I had texted him last wednesday, but I didn't push the point, figuring I could always bring it up later.

Around 4 he told me he was eager to get me home, so we went back to his place and showered together. Johannes wasn't into showering together, but it's something I kind of enjoy. Nate was soaping me up and washing my hair, it was pretty sexy. Then he threw me down on his bed and we started going at it.

Invite to Trivia

It's been an entire week since I heard from Nate.

I play trivia on Thursday nights, and Thursday afternoon we were one short for our trivia team. I don't know what made me do it, but I sent Nate a text asking if he would like to be our 5th. He responded right away and told me he definitely wanted to come. Then I ended up getting stuck at this work thing, and couldn't make it, so I ended up canceling. He told me the weather was looking nice for the weekend. I took that as a cue he wanted to go to the beach again, so I asked him if he would like to take me to the beach Saturday.

He did want to take me. Now I'm confused. But at least if we go to the beach, its not like we're just hooking up. He does want to hang out with me...but doesn't want to call? doesn't want to put in the effort? I'm just not sure what I think about the whole thing, and what he's thinking...