First Spankfinder Date

After putting a profile up on spankfinder, even without a picture, I was messaged/winked at/"hotlisted" by pretty much every guy in the NYC area. Out of curiosity, I searched for other women in my age range in the area, and only about 4 or 5 other profiles popped up.

I feel like every guy I met off of craigslist thought of me as "that slut off craigslist." Okay, I'm probably paranoid and maybe judging myself a little, but that was how I was feeling. So I didn't respond to anyone that said anything remotely sexual.

So I started talking to two guys. One is 29 and from the midwest, like me. The other is 35 and from France. 35 year old has pictures up and looks hot.

29 year old guy asked me on a date, so last night we met for happy hour at a bar in the east village. He was quite cute and a banker. He lives in a studio in the area and was very cute. The one thing was, he looked a little like Lily's exboyfriend. While I really liked her ex, it would be a little weird to date someone who looked like him.

He said he had pretty much given up on finding someone on the website, but we seemed to really hit it off. After a drink or two he told me he was going to definitely kiss me goodnight. He wanted to talk more about spanking, but I tried to hold off a little. What we did have in common was the struggle with telling people we are dating.

He kissed me, and then walked me to the subway station. On the way, he pulled me onto a park bench and we kissed more.

I'm really excited about this.

Up to His Old Tricks?

So, as it turns out Ben is not actually looking for much more than we had before. We had lunch, finally this week. He was funnier than I remembered, taller than I remembered too. However, his hair was a mess. I wanted to have a hair intervention. He just got out of a 7 year relationship (on and off, off while we were "seeing each other"), and ex sounds batshit crazy. seriously crazy. Anyway, when I got back to my office I started getting gchats about how he couldn't stop thinking of the time we spent together, but wanted to be my friend with benefits. He did emphasize the "Friend" part and said that he thought it would be much hotter if we had a real friendship.

I was kind of like "friend with benefits sounds like casually dating to me, except you don't pay for my drinks" which he found funny.

I think he's being kind of a slut now that he's single. I don't want to be a rebound. I"m totally intrigued and wanting a spanking.

Spankfinder.com

Well, what is this? A FREE dating site for people into spanking? YES PLEASE.

I put a profile up. No picture, because what if one of my father's friends is also into spanking, and has a preference for 28 year old girls?

And, to whoever made this site. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.